Slow Down - I'm over this

[BEMR]

Is it just me or does anybody else have any issues while driving with their significant other. Not that I am an asshole driver, but I usually feel more comfortable driving from an offense versus a defensive characteristic of driving habit, if you know what I mean. Seems if you drive slower than most your constantly being cut off and having to pay more attention to more vehicles all around you the ones your passing and the ones passing you, seems twice as much of a driving effort.

So, although I consider myself a safe driver I am very aware of what is around me at all times, and tend to drive even safer with passengers in my vehicle. But if I am not at least a couple miles per hour above the fastest drivers on the road, I am at least keeping up with them. That to me is "the offense" of the driving habits I mention.

These cars beg you to drive them, hence the HP, Torque, Steering etc. etc. so to take off slow off the line, or drive right at the speed limit takes all the M factor fun out of the drive. In my opinion these cars are not race cars but facsimiles thereof. 0 to the speed limit seems to be the point where the power and performance mostly plays a legal role in the enjoyment of the M. Now keep in mind I'm not talking about during burnouts as I take off from an intersection or with vehicles in front of me at a light, I'm talking about when it's safe with no pedestrians, and no cars you have to pass in an out of to make happen.

Which brings me to this question... my wife can not stand driving with me when I have the shift settings up, the throttle in sport mode, blah blah blah, it can sometimes turn even into an argument, lol, without just telling me to drive in the most eco settings with her in the car, does anybody else deal with this, and if so some suggestions please........

BTW I drive about 20g miles a year, no tickets, (chargeable anyway lol) no accidents, most recently put 90g miles on e60 M5, so not new to the M Cars either.

[Lups]

I told my hubby to shut up or walk.

I'm not constantly overtaking, I don't take risks and I try to mind other road users. I do leave the lights fast, since waiting till I'm over the crossroad to get to the wanted speed is in my mind holding everyone back. This in my books is rude.

I admit that the three times the hubby has been on the car, the nagging has gotten me to speed up even faster than usual, and I make sure the tail sways a bit too, since that is the only way the complaining finally stops. Then at the finish point I always get the line : You're buying your next set of tires yourself! And door gets slammed shut. I do not know who he thinks has bought them till now, since as far as I know, he seems to think that for the last ten years they've fallen from the sky.

Good luck with the spouse op, I have given up. You can't train an engineer.

[A267839885568]

LOL your hubby tells you to drive slower?!

[Lups]

Originally Posted by A267839885568

LOL your hubby tells you to drive slower?!

Yup, and lets not forget: I'm married to a Finn!

[F80silverstone]

Absolutely. It's constant. She is pregnant now so it's twice as bad. I know what your talking about. Restraint in this car is impossible. If you use 60% of what this car has to offer it's the equivalent of keeping your foot on the floor in a 328. They don't get it and they never will. There is a certain art to it I have learned, it's ok to go fast but be smooth unless you give her a few cocktails. Sad to say but this car is best enjoyed alone or with a date.

[A267839885568]

LOL Lups. You should buy him a Vespa Scooter or a Fiat hehehe

[BEMR]

Originally Posted by F80silverstone

Absolutely. It's constant. She is pregnant now so it's twice as bad. I know what your talking about. Restraint in this car is impossible. If you use 60% of what this car has to offer it's the equivalent of keeping your foot on the floor in a 328. They don't get it and they never will. There is a certain art to it I have learned, it's ok to go fast but be smooth unless you give her a few cocktails. Sad to say but this car is best enjoyed alone or with a date.

You got that EXACTLY right, seems when she has a couple drinks I can do 2 things, drive a little faster, and crank up the tunes, lol

[Lups]

Originally Posted by F80silverstone

Absolutely. It's constant. She is pregnant now so it's twice as bad. I know what your talking about. Restraint in this car is impossible. If you use 60% of what this car has to offer it's the equivalent of keeping your foot on the floor in a 328. They don't get it and they never will. There is a certain art to it I have learned, it's ok to go fast but be smooth unless you give her a few cocktails. Sad to say but this car is best enjoyed alone or with a date.

Yes pregnancy makes the spouses worse. Mine was too, and I was the one trying to handle the hormones that told me to get the duct tape and handle the trip with a few circles around his head. God that was the most annoying thing.

"slow down, we are in the middle of a field and there was a moose here in 1873".

"slow down, its starting to rain soon"

Slow down, you are rallying again"

"SLOW DOWN the baby won't be born on the way, don't worry" how the fuck would he know?! With his speeds the 4km trip would've taken an hour at minimum!

[Lups]

Originally Posted by A267839885568

LOL Lups. You should buy him a Vespa Scooter or a Fiat hehehe

He drives only a bicycle. Life is so cruel.

[A267839885568]

hahahahahahhahahaa.

[GrussGott]

Originally Posted by BEMR

I usually feel more comfortable driving from an offense versus a defensive characteristic of driving habit, if you know what I mean.

Ah, yup. What's awesome is when I'm REALLY on my game driving slow, all settings on granny and I get the, "stop driving like a maniac!"

Let's just all agree on something right now: She can never know. SHE. CAN. NEVER. KNOW.

[Doctor///M]

Take it to the track! It certainly does help to reduce the urge to push the limit on public roads, and will make your passengers happy.

[Aralan]

The trouble with these cars is they are too good. Driving a twisty road may become entertaining at triple the speed limit. I try to get it out of my system on the track where I can push the car harder, while still knowing I don't yet have the skill to extract all of the performance the car has to offer.

[Gac101177]

Originally Posted by Lups

Yes pregnancy makes the spouses worse. Mine was too, and I was the one trying to handle the hormones that told me to get the duct tape and handle the trip with a few circles around his head. God that was the most annoying thing.

"slow down, we are in the middle of a field and there was a moose here in 1873".

"slow down, its starting to rain soon"

Slow down, you are rallying again"

"SLOW DOWN the baby won't be born on the way, don't worry" how the fuck would he know?! With his speeds the 4km trip would've taken an hour at minimum!

That it's awesome

[04RC51]

I gave my GF my E92 when I got my F82 so if she doesn't like my driving, she can drive herself in her own M.

[Merli]

Originally Posted by BEMR

In my opinion these cars are not race cars but facsimiles thereof.

Hilarious thread

But M3/M4s are NOTHING like race cars. They are road cars through and through. Drive a stripped out, race prepped car and you'll know what I'm talking about.

In any case, take your car to the track. You'll get your speed fix and adrenaline rush in a safe environment, and you'll find that you have very little inclination to speed on public roads.

"Wow... You took that corner at 80km/h in a 60km/h zone? Good for you. I took turn 6 at Phillip Island last weekend at 195 km/h flat out without lifting and hit 265km/h on the main straightaway. Go away little boy."

[visualguy]

BEMR - Aggressive or spirited driving (or whatever you want to call it) is fun for the driver, but not so much the passenger. Something to keep in mind... I think many of us don't realize this.

[dclowd9901]

Interesting. I've taken my gf to two tracks now and she just wants to go faster and never complains about my driving. But I consider myself careful and I leave a lot of margin for error (theirs or mine).

I'm guessing OP and those that agree with him/her are very aggressive drivers that constantly lane change both sides of slower drivers and drive without leaving much margin for error.

Leave that shit on the track. Public roads are too inhabited with poor drivers to be taking any risks.

[Racer20]

Originally Posted by BEMR

some suggestions please........

How about respecting your passengers? I spend a lot of time in cars for work, and nothing is more annoying than riding shotgun with someone who thinks they are a race car driver. You don't have to drive slow, but putting some effort into driving smoothly is just common courtesy.

[Damasconian]

One of the best parts of doing a Euro delivery were the autobahn runs. I looked forward to that more than any other aspect of our trip. I started with runs to 100, then 115, then 120. No problem, she didn't even know. Fastest I got the car was 136, and it could easily have gone another 20-30mph faster. However I was losing feeling in my right arm due to the vice grip my wife had on it. It was either slow down or lose a limb.

I need my limbs.

[nasdaq100]

For my part, I always been a fast driver (I was a pro car racer for more than 10 years in open wheels) so every GF I had or my present wife know that they have to accept my driving style. When I proposed my wife I told her if she can overcome it forever, she said yes!... but she screams on me even though... and I don't mind that much
but I understand sometimes on a mountain road it must be very difficult for the passenger
But I have found a technic, I let her know what's gonna happened, like: "next corner is a fast one but easy one" or "The car will slide a bit when I turn and keep sliding until the exit with power slide ".. blabla... if I tell her in advance what I will do, she is not surprised and she feels less scared. It works.

[nasdaq100]

Originally Posted by Lups

I told my hubby to shut up or walk.